Saturday, May 31, 2014

Photo Of The Day ... And A Disability Role Model

black and white photograph of Rosa May Billinghurst sitting in her adapted wheelchair after being arrested, surrounded by police officers and members of Women’s Social and Political Union
Bisexualfandom - May 27, 2014

(Via the Just Rollin On Tumblr blog).
"Billinghurst’s ‘invalid tricycle’ gave her the mobility she needed to become an active member of the suffrage movement. Her ‘invalid tricycle’ was a makeshift wheelchair consisting of a modified tricycle with hand controls. Billinghurst attracted public attention by appearing in processions dressed in white and wheeling along with her machine decked out in colored WSPU ribbons and “Votes for Women” banners. Billinghurst rose to prominence as a recognizable public figure and became known as “the cripple suffragette.”"
Why oh why have I not heard of this woman before!

Friday, May 30, 2014

Best Article On Disability By A Parent

Michael Bérubé, Al Jazeera America - May 25, 2014

(Via the Autistic Self Advocacy Network Tumblr blog).

This is the best first-person article on disability by a parent of a disabled child I have ever read. It is very personal and anecdotal, but also connects one young man’s experiences with larger policy issues. Mr. Bérubé keeps the article focused on his son, Jamie, while also expressing how he, Jamie's father feels.

The picture he paints isn’t entirely gloomy. Age 21 isn’t quite the “cliff” it is sometimes said to be for disabled kids. There are systems in place with decent and improving philosophies behind them. Yet, so many disabilities … especially it seems intellectual disabilities … seem still to still baffle us, probably unnecessarily.

This is personal journalism at its best.

Views from an Adult With Disabilities … Followup

Towards the end of my collaborative blog post with Kerith Stull of “Brielle and Me”, on advice for parents of kids with disabilities, Kerith notes that I didn’t say anything about, “therapy, IEPs, or equipment” – things we parents focus so much energy on in those early years.” A point well taken … and worthy of a followup!

I think I just figured that these were givens. As disability activist and artist Cheryl Green pointed out in a recent podcast, people are usually introduced to disability through the medical field. So, if anything, I worry that parents will see their children’s disabilities exclusively through the lens of medicine and rehabilitation, especially in the preschool years. Later on, parents learn more about some disabilities through the similar and parallel educational system, which can also come to dominate how they understand disability.

I certainly benefitted from my parents' pursuit of medical “corrections” that they hoped would give me more mobility and physical independence down the line. In my early years they committed me to fairly aggressive surgery and physical therapy. I did start walking when I was 3 years old, and both surgery and therapy tapered off a bit, replaced by less extensive ongoing PT and foot and ankle braces. I think I stopped having any formal physical therapy when I was around 13 years old.

I don’t know when or how my parents decided it was time to stop fixing me. Maybe they never really made a decision at all. Maybe my doctors just ran out of reasonable things they could do, and told my parents they were pretty much done. I don’t know what they would have done had my disabilities been different or more severe, but I suspect that they would never have let therapies, services, and gadgets dominate our family. They just weren’t like that.

One thing I am very grateful for is that my parents never let me think that I had to “work hard” and suffer through more and more hardships in order to achieve their goals for me. I know so many disabled adults who decades after their childhoods have simmering resentments and complicated relationships family because they got the message … intentionally or not … that they had to work harder, always harder, and that if they didn’t, they were giving up. Guilt trips happen in the nicest families, and disability is a fertile ground for them. My therapy was hard and painful, but I never felt that success or failure had anything to do we my character.

Maybe that’s an extra piece of advice for parents. Don’t let your child confuse therapy and rehabilitation “success” with their self-worth. No abstract performance goal is worth it if your child ends up feeling judged and persecuted by his or her own family.

Thursday, May 29, 2014

Job Discrimination: Still Looking For Feedback

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I haven’t had any responses yet to my questions about employment discrimination. There are three reasons I am asking for feedback on this:

1. I am helping my local Center for Independent Living develop some classes for disabled people looking for work, and one of the topics we want to deal with is disability-based employment discrimination.

2. I am looking for work myself, and in my previous work experience, disability was actually a plus, not a problem. So I am personally curious about what real-life disability discrimination looks like in the job-seeking arena.

3. I think we in the disability community mention job discrimination a lot, often without being specific about it. It is annoying when non-disabled people say, “But what about the ADA? Isn’t it against the law for employers to discriminate?” It’s annoying because it sounds naive, but the question remains, how and why does disability discrimination still operate, and is there any practical, immediate way to combat it?

So please, dive in! Any comments on these and related questions would be helpful.

Awareness

In the second Criptiques Podcast, guest Cheryl Green hilariously dismantles a staple of the disability community … “raising awareness”. She rightly skewers the ill-defined goals and bizarre stunts people think up in the name of promoting “disability awareness”.

I think that a lot of disabled people, themselves, rally around "raising awareness" because "awareness" to them means an ideal situation in which they wouldn't have to explain their disabilities to people anymore. When we someday achieve the desired state of “disability awareness”, people will just know what's up with our disabilities, and will correctly anticipate our needs. More importantly, they won’t misunderstand us anymore. They won’t assume we are drunk, drugged, mentally impaired, sad, incompetent, narrow, self-centered, awkward, boring, unpredictable, angry, bitter, or angelic anymore … just because we bear markers of some disability or other.

One problem with this is that it's impossible for everyone to become fully aware of every disability. At best, we might hope for broad understanding of a few basic concepts about all disabilities. If awareness efforts aim for something like that, then I'm all for it. But most "awareness" campaigns focus on specific disabilities or diagnoses, which is both too narrow and too ambitious. Or, the goals are so vague that the word “awareness” itself loses all meaning.

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Criptiques Podcast Episode 2

Caitlin Wood, Criptiques - May 28, 2014

F*cking amazing. In less than 30 minutes, host Caitlin Wood and guest / Criptiques anthology contributor Cheryl Green bring some of the most fundamental concepts of disability culture and politics to life.

For example: Cheryl Green peels apart an old chestnut slogan about disability:
“People need to get with the program and see us as valuable, complete, whole human beings. And it’s not, 'See my ability, not my disability!' I find that treacly shit to be bullshit. I think that is so silly, 'See my disability, not my disability!' First of all, if you don’t see my disability, I’m not going to get any accommodations. Second of all, c’mon now, how are we going to hide this, you know? And third, why in the hell should I be expected to hide it? Why should one kind of person be encouraged to be proud of some part of their identity, but if it’s a disability, 'Oh, don’t see it, nope, we didn’t see it! Don’t talk about it. It’s bad!' No, it’s not bad. Maybe it’s hard, but it’s not bad.”
Cheryl is also hilarious and on-target in her critique of "disability awareness" ... where it comes from, what it's for, and the bizarre stunts it inspires.

This is more essential listening for people new to thinking about disability, and for people who think they have disability all figured out!

Views from an Adult With Disabilities

Disability Thinking / Brielle & Me -- Views form an Adult With Disabilities Guest Post with Andrew Pulrang from Disability Thinking and Kerith Stull from Brielle & Me
The Road Ahead ...

(Cross-posted at Brielle and Me)

Kerith Stull is the mother of a teenage daughter with cerebral palsy. I started reading her blog, “Brielle & Me”, after she commented a few times on some of my blog posts. A couple of weeks ago, we started exchanging emails about doing a collaborative blog post with Kerith posing questions parents of children with disabilities might ask, and my replies as an adult who grew up with disabilities. This post is the final result. We are both posting the same article … with own own introductions … on the same day at the same time on our blogs.

Questions from Kerith, and my replies ...

When did you first realize you were different?

I don’t remember a moment when I realized I was different. When I reached puberty, I assumed dating and relationships were like athletics for me, something I could observe and know about, but not participate in. I was wrong, of course. At the time, though it seemed like the ironclad truth and it was the first time I felt bad about being disabled. Eventually, when I was a young adult and discovered the disability rights movement and disability culture, I started to realize that having disabilities isn’t just about being “limited” by my body. It was also part of my social identity, something interesting and energizing. I am still learning what it means to be disabled.

What good things did your parents do for you? (regarding your disability)

My parents drew a very firm distinction between “me” and “my disabilities". They emphasized my mind and downplayed physical things. That helped me avoid feelings of regret about not being a big, strong, athletic guy in my youth. My parents never got involved in any disability organizations. Although I am now an active participant in the disability community, when I was younger, not being connected to that community actually encouraged me to develop more diverse interests. Above all, my parents always made it clear that I would graduate from high school and then go to a four-year college away from home. This boosted my confidence and gave me a concrete goal for the first part of my life. After that, they let me find my own way.

What do you wish more parents would do for their disabled children?

Parents need to discuss the usual topics with their teenagers with disabilities so they understand the biology of sex, consent, and personal values. They also need to know that they are beautiful, handsome, charismatic, and desirable. Some disabled youth (and maybe you) will have hard time believing it, but they need to hear that this isn’t just wishful thinking. Romantic relationships can be part of their lives. (I highly recommend reading, “Dear 16-year-old Stella” by Australian comedian / broadcaster, Stella Young.)

Introduce your disabled child to adults who have disabilities. It doesn’t matter much if they have the same disability. The important thing is for your child to have the opportunity to look up to an adult who experiences disability in ways your child will recognize, and to see that happy, successful adulthood with disabilities is possible and common. (A great place to find appropriate adult mentors who have disabilities is at your local Center for Independent Living.)

A really good friend can be a life-saver for parents of disabled kids. On at least two occasions, close friends furnished my mother with a very loving kick in the backside when she was seriously stuck over some aspect of my disabilities. On both occasions, these friends told her unvarnished truths she needed to hear, and that helped her, and by extension me.

What can the general public do / say to help people with disabilities?

- Don’t dismiss us, but don’t put us on a pedestal, either. Remember that we are human beings with our own will and agency. We are not symbols, metaphors, tests, or object lessons to make you a better person.

- Trust that we know what we are talking about. Like anyone, we sometimes misunderstand things, deceive ourselves, or just get things wrong. But, in general, we are usually more on top of things than you might think and we certainly know about our own experiences better than anyone else.

- Don’t support disability groups that:

 are not led, at least in part, by disabled people.
 use fear or pity to gain support.
 provide their services in segregated environments, removed and sheltered from the community.

- Support public policies and practices that increase physical accessibility, community integration, and meaningful self-direction for people with all types and degrees of disability.

From Kerith…

So, parents. What do you think? Anything surprising here?

Notice what’s not here. He didn’t mention therapy, IEPs, or equipment – things we parents focus so much of energy on in those early years. I’m sure he would say they were and are important. But, as the child ages, the focus really shifts – or at least from what he’s shared here, it should.

What can we learn?

Your child’s disability is part of their identity. However…

Focus on your child, not your child’s disabilities.
Encourage diverse and individual interests.
Have high expectations.
Encourage independence and independent choices.
Provide interactions and role models who have disabilities.
Make sure you have a good friend.
Respect people with disabilities.
Give your support to disability groups and public policies that truly include people with disabilities.

Finally…

Although we parents of special needs children have so much to think about and do for our little ones, be sure you’re looking ahead and preparing your child for the disabled adult they will eventually become.

More about Kerith Stull:

portrait photo of Kerith Stull
In 1995, Kerith was the married mother of a toddler working in marketing. Her life changed dramatically when her second daughter, Brielle, was born affected by CMV (cytomegalovirus). She quit her career and became a stay-at-home mother when Brielle was six months old to focus her time and attention to Brielle's needs. Brielle is now a highschooler and doing well despite CMV. She has CP (cerebral palsy), walks with a limp, and has an impaired right arm and hand. She needs assistance with basic care needs including dressing, bathing, and toileting. Brielle does not have any hearing loss (usually very common for CMV), but she cannot speak due to the CP. Instead, she uses sign language and occasionally uses a communication app on her iPod to communicate when I am not with her to interpret. She functions academically at about a fourth grade level for everything except math, which lags behind. Brielle participates in a work study program at school and loves her “jobs” at CVS and Walgreens. She  bowls in the winter with Special Olympics, plays baseball in the fall and spring on a Miracle League team, and plays soccer on a special needs team with TOPSoccer. She spends her free time dancing with teen idol bands on her iPod, doodling in a notebook, or watching teen shows or Scooby Doo. She has an infectious squeal and a smile that can light up a room.

“Brielle and Me" is a peek into their lives with their special needs daughter – the good, the bad, and the sometimes surprising. The stories Kerith shares here are motivated by a deeper passion — the pursuit of meaning from something that could be seen as so meaningless. Kerith's book about her journey of hope, determination, faith, and love was published in February of 2014.

What questions do YOU have for Kerith?

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Questions About Employment Discrimination

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I’m working on grant writing today, so how about another question for feedback?

How would you describe the most common ways that disability discrimination hinders employment for disabled people? Do employers simply want to avoid perceived hassles? Are they worried about specific perceived problems with disabled employees? Do disabled applicants and employees sabotage ourselves without realizing it? Do laws like the Americans with Disabilities Act help?

Please be as specific as you can. It’s easy to cite “discrimination”, but how, specifically, does it play out in real-life? Do you have any specific ideas on how to make the employment situation better for disabled people?

Later this week I will collect comments and write a more complete post on employment discrimination.

Monday, May 26, 2014

Memorial Day Post


"The true story of airman Douglas Bader who overcame the loss of both legs in a 1931 flying accident to become a successful fighter pilot and wing leader during World War II.”
When I was a kid, I went through a Second World War aircraft enthusiast phase. So, I’ve known a bit about Douglas Bader since I was very young. Memorial Day seems like a good occasion to think about him as a war hero and a fairly traditional but still kind of thrilling disability role model. Here are the highlights of Douglas Bader’s story as outlined by Wikipedia:

• In 1931, Royal Air Force pilot Douglas Bader crashed while attempting low-altitude aerobatics. He underwent surgery during which one leg was amputated below the knee and the other above the knee.

• After a lot of painful rehabilitation, he walked again with prosthetics, drove an adapted car, and was able to fly again. It looked as though he could continue to be an RAF pilot, but despite proving his flying ability, the RAF “invalided” him out of the service, reportedly because there were no regulations to address a situation like Bader’s. It wasn't the first or last time bureaucratic technicalities were the cause ... or excuse ... for a disabled person's lost opportunity.

• He re-joined the RAF just before the outbreak of the Second World War; this time, he was accepted as an active pilot. During the war he scored 20 “victories” (planes confirmed to be shot down). That's a lot.

• In 1941, he crashed over occupied France. As he was bailing out, one of his prosthetic legs got caught inside the cockpit. By opening his parachute, the force snapped the prosthetic’s strap, which freed Bader from the falling airplane … leaving his prosthetic behind of course.

• Bader was taken prisoner by the Germans. Initially they treated him well, even arranging safe passage for British planes to drop replacement prosthetics for Bader. Still, he kept trying to escape, sometimes almost succeeding. In the end he was sent to Colditz Castle, an “escape proof” POW prison. He was liberated in 1945 by the First United States Army.

• In 1976, Douglas Bader was honored by the Queen in 1956 and 1976 for services to disabled people.

• Nobody’s perfect. Bader was a “staunch” Conservative who supported racist and apartheid governments in Rhodesia and South Africa, and often spoke out against trade unions and anti-nuclear campaigners in the United Kingdom.

Sunday, May 25, 2014

Institutionalization Followup

Amy Ellis Nutt, The Star-Ledger - May 25, 2014

This article is a great counterpoint to my post yesterday about the practice of placing significantly disabled children and adults in large institutional facilities. You might say that Ellen Petroff’s parents present the other side of the argument … that their daughter, now 44 years old with multiple disabilities and health problems … needs 24 hour care from a very specific set of people which they can’t conceive her receiving anywhere but where she has been for 30 years. New Jersey's Developmental Disability program definitely needs to answer their questions more specifically than to say, “We’ll find a place”.

However, I think the article and everyone in it is missing a few basic truths. For one thing, moving anywhere after 30 years in one place is scary and risky for anyone, even those who don’t have disabilities. For another, I see hints that some of Ellen’s health problems might be the kinds that develop later in life, due to age but also to inactivity and maybe slightly complacent health care. Was she hospitalized so many times because her medical problems are just that severe? Or, could some of them have been avoided with slightly better, more creative health care? How do we know that her health won’t improve moving to a smaller group home, closer to her family, maybe with new aides and doctors able to approach her care with a fresh take?

Finally, I think the Petroff family’s concerns point to one of the insidious affects of these highly centralized, sheltered, sequestered institutions; they breed a sense of dependence and indispensability. Ellen’s parents can’t conceive of anyone else looking after their daughter. They may be right to worry, but that calls for especially thoughtful preparation, not reversing the trend towards closing institutions and helping disabled people live integrated lives in their own communities.

I do think choice should play a role here, but who’s choice? Can Ellen make a meaningful choice? How relevant are her parents’ wishes at this point? Plus, there’s the specific choice to stay where you are or move, and then there are the additional choices that could open up for Ellen if she chose to leave the institution.

This is a transition period, and transitions are always hard. That doesn’t make them wrong.

Weekly Wrap-Up

Disability Thinking Weekly Wrap Up in white letters superimposed over sepia-tone photo of handicapped parking spaces
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Saturday, May 24, 2014

Beautiful Photo Collection

black and white photo of a naked woman leaning back in a manual wheelchair, viewed from the back
sepia toned photo of a naked woman in a racing wheelchair, arms wrapped around herself, viewed from the front
These are just two from a collection of photos by German photographer Rasso Bruckert, posted today at the Onoffman: Abled-Bodies Tumblr blog.

How Could We Have Thought It Was Okay?

Photo of Sunmount Developmental Center, large four-story white building.
Sunmount Developmental Center, Tupper Lake, New York
The other day, I was reading an interview with the creators of one of my favorite TV shows, "The Americans" … which has nothing at all to do with disability … and this passage in the interview jumped out at me:

“ … it turned out that her parents had this huge secret: They’d had a child that they prepared to receive in the home, and it turned out the child was severely disabled. At that time, what you did was put the child in a home and told the kids and everybody that the child had died, so that’s what they did.”

The person saying this was talking about a real-life family that included a famous psychologist who lived during the 20th century. The child was his and his wife’s. The TV writer cited the example to illustrate how seemingly normal, stable families can harbor really massive secrets that profoundly affect everyone in the family, even if the secret is never discussed or formally revealed.

What struck me most, though, was the sentence:

"At that time, what you did was put the child in a home and told the kids and everybody that the child had died, so that’s what they did.”

I won't go into the long history of institutionalization in the United States, except to say that in some ways it is not a very long story and fairly recent as these things go. Suffice it to say that as the quote above indicates, there were several decades in the 20th Century when it was considered progressive and humane, if not precisely desirable, for families to place children as young as infants in large institutions that were a strange mix of hospital, residential school, and prison. It was a practice widely endorsed and recommended by doctors and accepted or embraced, (I don't want to speculate too much on which) by families. Many, if not most of these children would live out their entire lives in these institutions. Others would be fortunate enough to leave and go on to carve out real lives for themselves. For further reading, I recommend Mike Earvin's blog, Smart Ass Cripple, in which he often refers to his time in an institution, which he calls the Sam Houston Institute of Technology, (S.H.I.T.).

A few big institutions still exist … some of them in the exact same buildings purpose-built in the early 20th century. Small "group homes" thrive ... the large institutions' direct descendants, which are either a vast improvement, or an unfortunate half-measure, depending on your point of view. Yet, we have clearly passed the era where regimented, medicalized, institutional “care” was considered “the best thing”.

Still, it seems to me that we as a society haven’t fully grappled with the moral implications of this period when it was considered a difficult, but enlightened thing to do to place your newborn infant in what amounted to a massive hospital, more or less for life, and to some degree or other write the child out of your family’s life. We sort of know that it was a horrible thing to do, but we tend to excuse it by implying that people didn’t know better back then.

It reminds me of how we sometimes explain slavery … incorrectly I believe. We think of it as some kind of temporary mass psychosis that was a terrible shame, but what you gonna do? We are a more just society now, humanity progresses, people are smarter, etc. But really, were people all that different only 150 years ago? Were people that much more ignorant of disabilities 50 years ago? Or was there a more deliberate ideology at work?

So here are the questions I'm thinking about:

Did most people in the "institutionalization" era sincerely believe it was the best, most humane way to treat children ... later adults ... with significant disabilities? Or, was there always a buried understanding that it was wrong somehow?

Did medical and educational professionals truly believe that institutions could provide better care and upbringing than families?

Were medical and educational professionals at the time genuinely uninformed about certain kinds of disabilities. For example, did they sincerely believe that intellectually disabled people were in some way "less than human" ... deserving of humane care, but not human rights?

Did families really the marketing put on by these institutions, that they were highly competent, humane facilities providing top-notch care? Or, did many or most families kind of know on some level, before Willowbrook, that institutions were pretty terrible?

If families did harbor hidden fear and shame about institutionalizing their disabled children, what kept them from just bringing them home? What arguments did they hear that counter-balanced their more negative feelings about institutionalization?

If the expense of care at home was a factor, why is only recently that people are starting to suggest that the same money spent on brick-and-mortar institutions should simply be given instead directly to families?

If people either lied to themselves en masse, or severely misunderstood the nature of disability, then what sins of self-delusion or ignorance might we be committing right now against people with disabilities? What will our grandchildren and great-grandchildren look back on in our practices, and wonder how we could have been so cruel or stupid?

Are there thought processes and precautions we can use now to prevent ourselves from making fundamental mistakes in this area that we would be ashamed of later?

Please comment below. I would like to know your thoughts on this. It seems like a really big deal to me that is rarely discussed. Let's discuss.

Addendum:

I debated whether to mention this, but what the hell ...

The other thing that got me thinking about the institutionalization era was reading the current Atlantic Monthly cover story, "The Case For Reparations: An Intellectual Autopsy", by Ta-Nehisi Coates. Coates reviews the history of slavery in America, and argues that it wasn't an isolated practice, but rather was succeeded after its abolition by other policies and practices deliberately designed to promote white supremacy, and that the effect of these policies can be measured today in the economic lag still experienced by African-Americans. This article, and piece on it by Matthew Yglesias at Vox.com on how the economics of "reparations" might work prompted me to wonder if disabled people as a group have ever suffered a legally-sanctioned, systemic robbery on a scale that might, theoretically, call for some sort of systemic reparations. And I hit on institutionalization. I don't know where to go with that, but it's something to think about.